saving myself

i am my own magic wand. you are your own magic wand. no one can fix anyone else. all we can do is stand by each other while we work on ourselves. 

i often have a feeling of wanting to fix other people. i have an all encompassing desire to help, to save, to assist, to advise ... it's hard to sit back and just watch as someone you care about spirals down into the depths of despair. but the truth is, you can't actually save anyone other than yourself. 

don't misunderstand ... you can be there for your friends and loved ones. you can offer advise. you can point out the things that you observe. but quite frankly, if that person doesn't want to save themselves, there is absolutely NOTHING you can do. 

what we need more of in this world is less fixing and more supporting. more listening and less bossing. more laughter and less lectures. more hugs and less judgement. 

if you have a friend or loved one who needs saving ... stand by them, tell them you are there, and let them save themselves. trust that they can, just like you can. 

no one can go through life alone. we all need each other (says nosy nora). helping is being there. helping is listening. helping is nonjudgmental.

and if YOU are the one who needs saving, it's time to stop looking to other people to be the boss of your life (like that one nosy nora?). only you can make the changes that you want to make; that you need to make. only you can be your own magic wand and live your best life. 


be kind to yourself,

xoxo

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